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Health Related Forums => Islam and Medicine => Topic started by: Waxbaro! on January 03, 2008, 11:07:07 PM
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Learning To Forgive May Improve Well Being, according to the January issue of Mayo Clinic Women's HealthSource.
Holding a grudge appears to affect the cardiovascular and nervous systems. In one study, people who focused on a personal grudge had elevated blood pressure and heart rates, as well as increased muscle tension and feelings of being less in control. When asked to imagine forgiving the person who had hurt them, the participants said they felt more positive and relaxed and thus, the changes dissipated. Other studies have shown that forgiveness has positive effects on psychological health, too.
Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting, condoning or excusing whatever happened. It's acknowledging hurt and then letting it go, along with the burden of anger and resentment.
There's no single approach to learning how to forgive. Talking with a friend, therapist or adviser (spiritual or otherwise) may be helpful during the process, to sort through feelings and stay on track. The January issue of Mayo Clinic Women's HealthSource covers four steps that are included in most approaches to learning forgiveness.
-- Acknowledge the pain and anger felt as a result of someone else's actions. For forgiveness to occur, the situation needs to be looked at honestly.
-- Recognize that healing requires change.
-- Find a new way to think about the person who caused the pain. What was happening in that person's life when the hurt occurred? Sometimes, the motivation or causes for the incident have little to do with those most affected. For some people, this step includes saying, "I forgive you."
-- Begin to experience the emotional relief that comes with forgiveness. It may include increased compassion for others who have experienced similar hurt.
Source: http://www.mayoclinic.com
Waxbaro!
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Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting, condoning or excusing whatever happened. It's acknowledging hurt and then letting it go, along with the burden of anger and resentment.
Waxbaro!
لبيس الشديد بالصرعة ، ولكن الشديد من يملك نفسه عند الغضب
Masha'lah waa mawduuc aad muhiim u ah, in qof dambi kaa galay aad cafiso adigoo ka aargudan kara, hadiiba caafimaad ahaan u fiicantahay waa shey cajiib ah.
Diinteena ayaaba na fartay inaan iska cafino qofkii dambi naga gala !!!
Ilaahayne kitaabkiisa quraanka waxa ka buuxa aayado badan oo na faraaya inaan is cafino qofkii gaf naga galane aan u cafino.
وَلْيَعْفُوا وَلْيَصْفَحُوا أَلا تُحِبُّونَ أَنْ يَغْفِرَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَحِيمٌ
فَمَنْ عَفَا وَأَصْلَحَ فَأَجْرُهُ عَلَى اللَّهِ إِنَّهُ لا يُحِبُّ الظَّالِمِينَ
الَّذِينَ يُنْفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
خُذِ الْعَفْوَ وَأْمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ وَأَعْرِضْ عَنِ الْجَاهِلِين
وَإِنْ تَعْفُوا وَتَصْفَحُوا وَتَغْفِرُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَحِيم
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Very interesting...thank you Waxbaro for posting this. I can totally see the emotional relief that comes with forgiving someone...we all know the horrible feelings that we feel when we are mad at someone or feel that someone has done us wrong. After all, Allah is the most forgiving and from that we can learn. I also think it is as important forgiving yourself, as human beings we makes mistakes at times, and if we scrutinize ourselves and indwell on those mistakes, it only creates more emotional instability. So here I speak about me: As of now I forgive you, I forgive myself and I ask forgiveness from Allah.